To Value Other’s Dance

“Though we see the same world, we see it through different eyes. Any help we can give you must be different from that you can give yourselves, and perhaps the value of that help may lie in the fact of that difference.”Β  ~Virginia Woolf, from Three Guineas; A woman’s a response to an educated gentleman who solicits her participationΒ in war-prevention efforts (1938).


danzers-8 ~d nelson

danzers-8 ~d nelson

So why has dancing with you
seemed like such an elusive dream
through most of this life
my dearest, accepting dance partner?


While others laughed at both
of my awkward left feet,
You gave them firm support
that we may twirl together,
light & stable.


As my breath gently catches up
to these racing thoughts
& pounding heart,
your solidity calms me.


I’ve heard that opposites attract
but your deep, tender compassion
embracing this misaligned figure
breaks my heart open with happiness.


Why others won’t accept me
for who I am, and hope to be;
why they taunt & bully;
why they shoot semi-automatic
bullets at my fragile body,
I may never understand,
yet, I must forgive.


This is the lesson you
offer me, dear mother:
To transform unknowing
by dancing and smiling
even though faced with peril,
contentedly accepting even this,
while swan songs audibly
play for us all.

postcard to mother earth

postcard to mother earth


74 thoughts on “To Value Other’s Dance

  1. harulawordsthatserve

    Powerful stuff – took my by the hand, and twirled my heart. All arts, and dancing most certainly, are powerful gateways to joy and acceptance, if we will celebrate the innate variety of creativity and honour the uniqueness within the whole. Beautiful post. Love, Harula x

  2. Hariod Brawn

    These days, my dancing is purely cerebral. Did you know, David, that purely by thought you can ‘paint’ neural connections on the part of the brain that deals with motor actions? In other words, by thinking of dancing, you can create new neural connections just as you would if you did dance. πŸ™‚

  3. Annika Perry

    Powerful post and may we all learn to enjoy the dance of life; supporting each other, finding strength. Beautiful photos portraying the vitality of dance and by extension our lives.

  4. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature

    Dancing with the Mother
    Watching a red-tailed hawk right now, dancing with her partner in the air.
    May we all dance together, be it with right feet, left feet or wings.

  5. Eric Tonningsen

    With two left feet, I embrace any and all who desire to be a part of my dance card. Dancing unconditionally with others makes forgiveness so much easier and rewarding.

  6. susanenholm32

    why they shoot semi-automatic
    bullets at my fragile body,
    I may never understand,
    yet, I must forgive. Beautiful swirls of color – really like the locomotion in two of the images. Shoot me with bullets? I’m not likely to understand or forgive. Guess I need more Zen or a bullet-proof vest.

    1. smilecalm Post author

      thank you for your skillful dance steps, susanenholm32!
      as difficult as this kind of forgiveness may be
      getting a bullet proof vest seems much easier πŸ™‚

    1. smilecalm Post author

      while not formally trained
      that hasn’t stopped me from
      going to the dance
      & learning from real
      dancers like you, Karen πŸ™‚

    1. smilecalm Post author

      your dancing, reflective words
      describe my simple expression, well, sara!
      a quote that has stuck with me
      since college english 101 πŸ™‚

  7. Dennis the Vizsla

    hello smilecalm its dennis the vizsla dog hay my dada is trying to figger owt wot kind of dansing they ar dooing!!! is it west coast swing??? is it salsa??? is it mambo??? he kannot tel!!! but sinse he duz all varyus sorts of dansing he gits all sidetrakd wenever he sees it!!! ha ha ok bye

  8. Genie

    β€œThough we see the same world, we see it through different eyes. Any help we can give you must be different from that you can give yourselves, and perhaps the value of that help may lie in the fact of that difference.” ~Virginia Woolf

    Virginia Woolf, committed suicide, perhaps she was unconsciously working through her own dilemmas.

  9. Jet Eliot

    The dance of life is blissfully expansive, involving many forms, and is the gift we all have the opportunity to enjoy if we so choose. Your words and photos here, David, alive with joy and movement and forgiveness, started my day in a wonderful way. Thank you.

  10. Michael

    Delightful post, David. There is something about a moment or two of vulnerability in the presence of others that causes the resistance to crack, and leaves to just the sweetest feelings ever! Ha! We see what is beyond all the layers and filters we usually place between us, and together, we just move to the music…

    Another inspiring Peace!

    1. smilecalm Post author

      thanks for being of help to me
      & others to get up off our butts
      and out onto the dance floor or ceiling, Michael! wonderful we can be moving & groovin’ for this sweet, eternal time πŸ™‚

  11. niasunset

    I wanted to be there πŸ™‚ Dance is the most beautiful thing, and people should dance… Loved this amazing post, poetical and meaningful touches and also the dance photographs… Peace can be found in dancing… but all together… Thank you dear David, dear beautiful Smilecalm, Happiness, and Blessing, Love, nia

  12. Ka Malana -

    Thanks for bringing me here, to the dance,
    where I am appreciated for my mismatched attire, strange moves, and
    my sensitivity to “why they shoot semi-automatic
    bullets at my fragile body.” My tears stream.
    We can still dance while we cry;
    and have before we’ve known it, found some peace and forgiveness in this,
    some calm after the storm. There are no answers, just loving support to hold us up,
    and gently lead us back into the dance with ourselves, whole again.
    How unique and fragile we are.

    1. smilecalm Post author

      i’m touched by your deep understanding
      of what i tried to simply express, Ka!
      wishing you fun dances
      in warm breezes
      with happy faces πŸ™‚


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