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Mother’s Soft Petal’s Provenance

Petals fall close to the rose ~d nelson

As she fell into slumber I strummed
a sweet song the last time her eyes were open.
Accepting she’s been gone for many years,
I still write her letters of gratitude, forgiveness & love.

Your motherly love;
my bouquet’s
foundation.

The universe
revealed upon
looking into your eyes.

Though dusk looms
now as my pedals fall,
your rosebud gift’s
fluorescence linger.

If I were to have any advice, it would be this: Tonight, when you return from school or work or, if you live far away, the next time you visit your mother, you may wish to go into her room and, with a calm and silent smile, sit down beside her. Without saying anything, make her stop working. Then, look at her for a long time, look at her deeply. Do this in order to see her, to realize that she is there; she is alive, beside you. Take her hand and ask her one short question to capture her attention, “Mother, do you know something?” She will be a little surprised and will probably smile when she asks you, “What, dear?” Keep looking into her eyes, smiling serenely, and say, “Do you know that I love you?” Ask this question without waiting for an answer. Even if you are thirty or forty years old, or older, ask her as the child of your mother. Your mother and you will be happy, conscious of living in eternal love. Then tomorrow, when she leaves you, you will have no regrets.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh, A Rose for Your Pocket: An Appreciation of Motherhood

85 Replies to “Mother’s Soft Petal’s Provenance”

  1. Your Mother’s tribute moved me, David, the roses and rose petals, poetry, and quote about love and forgiveness and connecting. I, too, was able to enjoy a special song with my mother on our last day together, and demonstrate my love to her. And what a gift that was. Thanks for reminding us of all the love there is to share.

    1. mother inside & I thank you for this kind remembrance, Jet!
      we have had special experiences, connections of past, present & future; how wonderful.
      as a retired public health nutritionist we’ve done our best
      helping others realize what they’re made of.
      may your day be in beauty, david πŸ™‚

  2. David, I am deeply touched by your praise to your mother, such sharing builds strength in both
    mother and child.
    Your poem and pictures of roses are so beautiful and tender. To finish off with this wonderful quote by
    Touch Naht Hahn is brilliant.

    May we all remember to show and tell of our love more frequent.

    Miriam

    1. wonderful hearing that you experienced
      what i humbly tried to convey for this special mother’s day, Miriam!
      after posing, the roses seemed to call for appropriate written sentiments.
      may your day continue being one
      filled with love πŸ™‚

    1. thank you for the kind words, Tippy!
      seems fitting that you’re
      the prodigy of a wild rose
      with all the beauty & thorniness
      that’s pass along in seeds.
      may your day in the garden
      be spectacular πŸ™‚

  3. A beautiful reminder to make time to thank our mothers for life, David, and listen to the stories they carry about our roots. We never know how long they will be with us. ❀

    1. appreciation for your gentle, mother’s wisdom, Carol.
      wonderful reflection to listen to their stories to understand roots. many outside of aboriginal communities were brought up like rootless stock.
      may your day be happy, david πŸ™‚

  4. Wow! Beautiful images and messages. Thanks for reminding me how lucky I am to be able to spend another day with my mom, who is now 95. You are such a blessing..Sent from my Galaxy Tab

    1. thank you for these kind words, marty. quite special to have mother still physically present at 95.
      she is quite fortunate to have your loving presence and care. may your day be sunny πŸ™‚

  5. I am so moved by this message – yours and Thich Nhat Hanh’s. Maybe I will write a letter to my mother who has passed. Or whisper my gratitude, forgiveness, love.

    1. makes me happy that you find some guidance in this sharing, dear JoAnna!
      i’m sure you will find the words & sentiment needed to share.
      here is a short presentation of offering love letters by a former nun:

      1. Thank you. David. I was not able to click on the link or find it by copying and pasting. But I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

  6. Beautiful post in words and images. My father passed when I was just 6 years old so it was hard for my mother to talk about those years. But whenever i asked her questions her eyes would light up reliving precious memories from along ago… This has been my gift to her for so many years but until now I couldn’t describe it. There’s nothing like being woken up… jc

    1. a bow & smile for your kind retrospection, dear JC.
      here we are doing our best as continuations of mother & father.
      so wonderful knowing of moments of awakening
      over and over again πŸ™‚

  7. As I read your heartfelt thoughts, I was overwhelmed by the many words I wish I shared with my mom before she took her life. One never knows when the time will come, when your last moment will be with the ones you love. If anything, it has taught me to live in each moment with love.

    Thank you for this ~🌺~

    1. humbly i listen to your deepest hurt, dear Linda. your encouragement to love those we’re with is so beautiful!
      it’s extremely sad when loved ones end temporary painful feelings with permanent solutions.
      yet, there’s a part of me that understands, having come close to being overwhelmed with despair.
      perhaps Kaira Jewel’s lesson, above may offer a gentle consolation practice.
      may you continue being a beautiful rose for yourself & your mother, david πŸ™‚

    1. thank you for this kind recognition, Alison!
      did get up on a ladder to get that angle.
      then needed to write words that would
      sing along with the rose.
      may your day be well πŸ™‚

  8. Beautiful. All of it: your words and Thich Nhat Hanh’s words. I wish my mom were here so I could look at her deeply and tell her I love her. Like you, I still write to her, and write about her. I didn’t always understand her, but I always loved her. And I know she loved (loves) me.

    1. a morning smile for your kind, affirming note, Cheryl! Since you’re already writing to your mother there’s little reason to hear the love letter clip I posted above. wishing you and your mother a wonderful day of fun πŸ™‚

      1. i’m happy you watched and enjoyed! yes, i did understood about your letter writing despite her passing. may your day be well, david πŸ™‚

  9. Dear David,
    I am so happy that you include both gratitude and forgiveness–no duality. It shows the ability to love far beyond the equal exchange of this for that. True love surpasses the wanted and the unwanted.
    With happiness,
    Celia

    1. smiling to your deeply listening and affirming sharing, Celia!
      being barely 18 years older than i, divorced when i was 5,
      my mother did her best under the circumstances,
      but growing up without a father
      things were often not pleasant during childhood.
      thanks to Thay’s practice i clearly see her anew,
      being fresh, a fragile 5 yr old and a luminescent gift
      to me. She’s helping type right now πŸ™‚

    1. smiling to your kind
      & wonderful reflection, dear Christy!
      i just found your comment in the spam folder
      and i’m glad i looked and pulled it out.
      may your day be well πŸ™‚

  10. This brought tears to my eyes just reading it, Imagine the power of receiving that gift in person.. πŸ™‚ Thank you David.. I had a wonderful Mother’s Day back in March here in England.. and both my children I cherish and they both say I love you.. The best gift of all.. ❀

    1. thank you for such a kind reflection, dear Sue!
      makes me happy knowing you are so loved
      by your children and so many others.
      may your day be in happiness πŸ™‚

  11. David, a moving post to your mother and how true that all mothers reveal the universe! The final quote by Thich Nhat Hanh is one that should be read by many who are just ‘too busy’ to visit ones mother … and will never overcome their regret. Beautiful tender images to accompany your words!

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